::Unfiltered

Let's consider the example of Chani, a young woman who was diagnosed as autistic in her early twenties. Throughout her life, Chani struggled with social interactions and found herself mimicking neurotypical behaviours to fit in. She would force herself to make small talk, maintain eye contact, and suppress her natural tendencies in social settings, which left her feeling exhausted and disconnected from her true self.

 

After her diagnosis, Chani embarked on a journey of unmasking and self-discovery. With the support of a few close friends who understood and accepted her for who she was, Chani began to let go of the need to mimic social skills and started embracing her authentic self. Instead of forcing herself to engage in superficial conversations, Chani learned to communicate more openly and honestly, sharing her genuine thoughts and feelings with others. She no longer felt the need to hide her passions and interests, such as her love for science fiction and her talent for writing fan-fiction.

 

Chani's friends played a crucial role in her unmasking process by providing encouragement, validation, and companionship. They accepted her quirks and idiosyncrasies, creating a safe space where she could be herself without fear of judgement. As Chani continued to unmask and embrace her authenticity, she noticed a positive shift in her social interactions and relationships. She formed deeper connections with others who appreciated her for who she was, rather than who she thought she should be.

 

By seeking support from understanding friends and allowing herself to be vulnerable, Chani successfully transitioned from masking her social skills to living more authentically, leading to greater self-acceptance, fulfilment, and genuine connections with others.

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Further unmasking stories are available within the book.